I don’t know if you have seen, read or heard anything about “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, but I find it quite interesting. Basically the premise of this whole project is that there are five “languages” which people “speak” to either give or receive love to each other. These include acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, and quality time. One of my top love languages is quality time: feeling loved being in the presence of another. You don’t have to do anything necessarily or even say very much. Just being with someone who you care about is important when communicating this love language.
It can be a very meaningful prayer time when you allow God to love you through the diverse languages of love. Recently I have been thinking about one of the ways God expresses His love, through just being with us through the Blessed Sacrament. We can just sit with him, and be in His presence. We don’t even have to say anything, we just allow Him to gaze at us as we look back at Him.
Yet, that is just one moment, just a single hour being with the living God. Have you ever thought about what it would be like if that were all you had? What if you never were able to be with Him again? What if you were just like an animal, which only lived life and then merely stopped living? What if that was it?
The Church talks how unique we are as humans for this specific reason, “With his longing for the infinite and for happiness, man questions himself about God’s existence. In all this he discerns signs of his spiritual soul… the ‘Seed of eternity we bear in ourselves’.” (CCC 33). We see signs of our soul within us, but we often fail to recognize what this communicates: the soul is a sign of love.
Because we don’t really see it or taste it or feel it we take it for granted quite often that we even have a soul. Think about this God could have created you to be temporary but he made you with a “longing for the infinite”. Jesus while He was speaking with the Father before He was to endure His passion prayed, “Father, they are your gift to me. I wish that where I am they also may be with me” (John 17:24), and the “they” He is referring to is not just the apostles, but us!
God made us to spend some eternal quality time! He wants us to be with him forever! This is why he gave us a soul, so that we could have a love that which wouldn’t be contained in just a lifetime. God did not make us like an animal to be a fleeting moment going in and out of time; he wants to love us forever.
Pope Francis once said about his trip to the United States that, “There is something very important for me, which is closeness. For me, it is difficult not to be close to people.” I believe this is true with God as well. He literally cannot wait for us to be with Him. It’s probably one of the most difficult things for God to wait for us to be with Him forever. When I think about being with the Trinity for all eternity, I know I just want to be there now, I just want to be in that eternal moment with Him! But when we stop and think about it, these are moments that, while they vanish as a drop in the never-ending ocean of heaven, still have a supreme value.
When we get to be with God in heaven, we will give an account for our time here on earth. When we stand before Him and look at all the time we did not spend with Him in prayer, we will wish we had spent more! That was time we could give to God! Which is why it is so important we take finite time, valuable time, which we will never be able to have back, to spend with Him. I know sometimes we can feel self-conscious when we spend time in prayer, because it can seem like we are not doing anything. But we are doing the most important thing we could ever do, because we are doing the “one thing… needful” (Luke 10:42), we are giving our finite time to God. That is something we can look back on and be proud of.